If recent findings (based on tests involving 82 couples married for six months) published in the Journal of Family Psychology are to be believed, then if women want to lead a blissfully happy married life, they should ideally marry a man less attractive/ uglier than them. Very interesting survey, I must say.
If you are wondering why a less attractive husband is a mandatory requirement to a happy marriage, well that it is because according to the research in evolutionary terms, women are apparently less choosy or not as hung up on looks. For them their men need to be good providers and should help them to reproduce (definitely makes the women much smarter, don’t you think?)
Nature on the other hand has programmed men to choose a mate who is most likely to pass on their genes and thus look for enhanced physical attributes and beauty. Also attractive men are more prone to infidelity as they get more short-term mating opportunities! So, what? I believe so do women, but, unlike men, most women would not jeopardize a great relationship for a roll in the hay.
Honestly, I think one cannot really generalize such a thing. After all, 82 couples is too small a sample to draw conclusions from, and most importantly all the couples have just been married for 6 months. Now that is too short a time to judge whether or not such marriages are successful or not. Personally I believe, to have a great marriage both the partners should be sensitive to each others needs and love and respect each other.
Source: Celebitchy
Happy marriage is not all about looks. Factors to consider are too many to mention. Good looks fade but true love endures. Let us only hope for good genes and health be transmitted to the children.
Even though to some extent I agree with Maynard, I do think the way one looks has a role to play in every relationship. A thing of beauty is a joy forever, Keats said that and no wonder having a beautiful person in one’s life can definitely exaggerate their desirability but it also makes a difference in the initial part of the relationship, more often than not relations that make it or break don’t have physical appearance as an underlying reason, it is the kind of compatibility and mutual respect that they share.
Looks play a role, but I feel as one matures one realizes that there are other qualities which are more important for an enduring relationship.
Looks are important in getting attracted to a partner or attracting a partner, but forging a strong relationship and keep it going is something else all together. To have a good looking mate need not mean disaster in a relationship, neither a mate who is not good looking is a recipe for a successful relationship. In the end its who you are and what are you willing to give into the relationship is what matters.
as much as we would like to believe otherwise..this world sadly does function on physical appearances. i agree that with time looks do not matter as much as the qualities of a person, but they certainly give a head-start in many areas. it is unfortunate but true.
Looks doesnot matter and it has nothing to do in making a maritial relationship successful. To some extent, younger generation prefers looks but how you look (means ugly or smart)is not the parameter to make marriage successful, what actually matters is your nature, how you deal with situations.
When an ugly male have beautiful and attractive mate then there would be a kind of insecurity and that would force him to listen and follow what the partner says. So that feeling according to me makes sometime marrige succesful, else You look ugly or smart have nothing to do with making married like happy and tensionfree.
Right the research sample is too small and 6 month is too short a period to even give a thought, seriously. Looks does matter to some extent but more than that it is what both the partner are ready to give and take in a relationship which lays the foundation. But if we look around we will see most of the time it is not just the appearance but the personality which attracts. Marriage is based on love, trust, respect, and many other qualities. By saying looks can certify if the marriages will be successful or not, is trivializing the relationship!
